I read "Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother" by Amy Chua recently while pumping at work.
According to goodreads... "All decent parents want to do what's best for their children. What Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother
reveals is that the Chinese just have a totally different idea of how
to do that. Western parents try to respect their children's
individuality, encouraging them to pursue their true passions and
providing a nurturing environment. The Chinese believe that the best way
to protect your children is by preparing them for the future and arming
them with skills, strong work habits, and inner confidence. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother
chronicles Chua's iron-willed decision to raise her daughters, Sophia
and Lulu, her way-the Chinese way-and the remarkable results her choice
inspires. Here are some things Amy Chua would never allow her daughters to do:
have a playdate
be in a school play
complain about not being in a school play
not be the #1 student in every subject except gym and drama
play any instrument other than the piano or violin
not play the piano or violin
The truth is Lulu and Sophia would never have had time for a playdate.
They were too busy practicing their instruments (two to three hours a
day and double sessions on the weekend) and perfecting their Mandarin.
Of course no one is perfect, including Chua herself. Witness this scene:
"According to Sophia, here are three things I actually said to her at the piano as I supervised her practicing:
1. Oh my God, you're just getting worse and worse. 2. I'm going to count to three, then I want musicality. 3. If the next time's not PERFECT, I'm going to take all your stuffed animals and burn them!"
But Chua demands as much of herself as she does of her daughters. And
in her sacrifices-the exacting attention spent studying her daughters'
performances, the office hours lost shuttling the girls to lessons-the
depth of her love for her children becomes clear. Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother
is an eye-opening exploration of the differences in Eastern and Western
parenting- and the lessons parents and children everywhere teach one
It was an interesting read. I am sure that it is not the parenting style I choose for my family but it does explain some things that I see with other families. I am sure that is one of many parenting style books I will read in my time.